Monday, July 18, 2016

Don't Go To Bed Angry Stay Up And Fight By Deb and Ron DeArmond

I received this book from Litfuse Publicity for no charge in exchange for my honest review of this book. The opinions expressed here are my own.

Book Description:

We've all been there. He doesn't understand what she's really upset about. He thinks she blows things out of proportion. Neither of you can agree on the right course of action. In every marriage, there is conflict. And with every conflict, there is a choice for resolution. Will you ignore the issue until it seemingly goes away? Or will you work together to find peace?

In Don't Go to Bed Angry, Deb and Ron DeArmond give you permission to fight. Marriage is worth fighting for. Conflict isn't the problem, after all; the real issue is how we deal with the conflict. Combining a healthy dose of personal experience with relationship-affirming biblical wisdom, Deb and Ron demonstrate how communication through conflict can lead to greater insight and understanding of thoughts, feelings, and perspectives that can safeguard--and even strengthen--your relationship. Immensely practical features including worksheets, discussion questions, callouts, and prayers make this a definitive go-to resource to help you start fighting--together--for your marriage.


My Thoughts:

Don't Go To Bed Angry Stay Up And Fight is the latest book by Deb and Ron DeArmond and it is FANTASTIC. I had the pleasure of reading Deb DeArmond's book: I Choose You Today: 31 Choices to Make Love Last, a philosophy I have had throughout our almost 21 years of marriage. I loved this book and read it two times so that I could make sure I didn't miss anything. I am a huge fan of Deb DeArmond's writing and felt honored to have the opportunity to read this latest book from Deb and her husband, Ron. The DeArmond's take the old philosophy "All's fair in love and war" and shows how dangerous that is to a marriage and how fighting with rules brings marriages together. I personally grew up in a home where I never remember my parents fighting. I thought fighting was a death sentence until I found out that other people's parents fought but still loved each other and that the fighting actually can bring you together. This book not only looks at the DeArmond's marriage, but it also talks about others they have counseled and how their marriages found healing. I found a few quotes that really stuck with me in this book. They include: "A marriage without intimacy is on its deathbed. It may remain there for many years, but no life or breath remains." , It is not the vented pot that blows its stack, it's the one with the lid screwed on too tight that explodes.", "The sun going down on your anger is about dealing with your own anger, not keeping inventory of your spouse's anger or discussing how well he/she deals with it. Let it go until a more beneficial time when you both have fresh perspectives.", and "The Bible is clear that it is  possible to be angry without it becoming sinful." These quotes actually stay with me as I go through my feelings of anger and help to give me pause to wait. The DeArmond's truly have a heart for couples and helping them have healthy marriages. I love their writing style, it is honest and they are completely transparent in their own marriage and mistakes they have learned from. The advice they give is advice that they follow and have tested over their 40+ years of marriage. I read this book on my own but it is recommended that you read it with your spouse. I personally found myself learning so much by reading it myself. I do hope to read it with my husband eventually. The activities at the end of each chapter definitely challenged me to look at myself  and how I can control my behavior in order to fight fair. I do not feel I have given this book justice in this review! I loved it and highly recommend it for anyone who is married whether married a few days or years, or couples that are getting married to start life together off right! I also recommend Deb Armond's other book:  I cannot wait to read more from The DeArmond's as a couple and/or individuals.  I highly recommend Deb's other book:I Choose You Today: 31 Choices to Make Love Last. I give this book 5 STARS.

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